Couples therapy
I offer two different ways of working with couples depending on where you are in your relationship. Both are conducted online via Zoom. I currently have limited availability for new couples — please get in touch soon if you’re considering starting.
For couples who want to repair and rebuild
This type of therapy is for couples where they are committed to working on their relationship and want to break out of the negative patterns they find themselves in. You may have reached breaking point, but want to make sure that you try counselling before you decide it’s not possible for the relationship to continue.
How we work together
My role with you is to be a process consultant — I am here to help you to identify the negative cycles you find yourselves in time and time again and work towards understanding and breaking these negative cycles. EFT seeks to understand what is going on underneath these repetitive cycles and to help you to rebuild supportive and loving bonds within your relationship.
For the first session, you will jointly attend an assessment session together so that I can hear more about what is currently happening and get a sense of how you relate to one another. Each person will then have one or two separate sessions to explore more about you individually, including the history of your relationships, your upbringing, culture and your current wellbeing. Following this, we will come back together and I can suggest what type of intervention is needed.
Couples sessions are conducted via Zoom and run for 50–55 minutes and work through three phases of treatment. Longer sessions (80 minutes) are available on request.
For couples who are unsure about the future
Some couples will have reached a place where they’re unsure how they want, or even if they want, to move forward with the relationship. You might have initially been really happy but as things have progressed you’ve become unsure if your life goals, hopes and values align. This is understandably a really tough time for couples and it can be really hard to know how to move forward.
What discernment counselling looks like
Rather than using a couples space to repair wounds and rebuild bonds, what can feel more appropriate is having a space where you come together to think about what you want from the future and discern whether that future is with one another. These discernment sessions are usually time-limited (5 or 6 sessions) and can look different depending on what the issue is.
If it’s about figuring out if you’re both on the same page with your life goals and decision making, we can use a values-based approach. Or if the question is whether you want to continue to be together, the focus can be on making space for where you’re at, perhaps understanding how you came to be in this place as a couple and thinking about whether your paths align moving forward. The aim is for you to get to the end having moved out of the stuck place you’re in and with a clearer answer on how you’re moving forward.
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